369 JournalHow to do the 369 method for love
- Decide what kind of love you are writing about: self-love, a new relationship, your current partner, or a specific person.
- Write one present-tense affirmation about how the love feels and what it is like.
- Write it 3 times in the morning, 6 in the afternoon and 9 at night, for 21, 33 or 45 days.
- Notice the shifts: how you feel, who you meet, and how you show up in your relationships.
The 369 method for a specific person
Many people use the 369 method for a specific person, often an ex or a crush. Here is an approach that is kinder to you and to them:
- Write about the relationship, not about controlling them. “I am in a loving, happy relationship with someone who chooses me” respects that the other person makes their own choices.
- Focus on your feelings. “I feel calm, secure and loved” keeps the ritual about your wellbeing.
- Leave room for better. Some people add “this or something better”, which makes it easier to let go if it is not meant to be.
- Look after yourself. If the practice leaves you anxious or checking their messages, switch to a self-love affirmation for a cycle.
Love affirmations for the 369 method
| For | Example affirmation |
|---|---|
| Self-love | I love and accept myself exactly as I am today. |
| Self-love | I am worthy of deep, gentle, lasting love. |
| New relationship | I am in a loving relationship that feels safe, easy and fun. |
| New relationship | I am grateful for the kind partner who chooses me every day. |
| Current partner | Our relationship grows closer and more loving every day. |
| Current partner | We understand each other and communicate with ease. |
| Specific person | I am in a happy, loving relationship with someone who truly wants to be with me. |
| Specific person | I feel loved, respected and chosen, with this person or someone even better. |
| After a breakup | I am healing, and my heart is open to the love that is right for me. |
| Friendship and family | I am surrounded by people who love and support me. |
Does the 369 method work for love?
No ritual can make another person feel something. There is no scientific evidence that writing an affirmation changes someone else’s choices. What the 369 method can do is keep your attention on the love you want, which often changes how open, confident and present you are, and that changes relationships.
Questions
Can I use the 369 method on a specific person?
Many people do. A kinder approach is to write about the loving relationship you want and how you feel, rather than trying to control the other person, for example: I am in a happy relationship with someone who truly wants to be with me.
How long should I do the 369 method for love?
21, 33 or 45 days are the usual choices. Many people start with 21 days for self-love and then a 33-day cycle for a relationship.
Should I write my crush's or ex's name?
Some people do, but it can keep you focused on one outcome. Writing about the relationship and feelings you want keeps the practice healthier and leaves room for something better.
What if the person does not come back after the 369 method?
That is their choice, and no ritual can change it. Use what you noticed during the cycle, consider a self-love cycle next, and stay open to a relationship that chooses you freely.
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